A Kiss is Just a Kiss–or is it?

A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That’s basic spelling that every woman ought to know. ~Mistinguett

The question I ask whenever it’s time to write the kissing scene is what is the emotional source?  Is it love, attraction, curiosity or something else?  Is it a test, a challenge or a declaration?   What does he hope to prove?  What does she hope to achieve? No other kiss is quite like the first kiss.  Rejection is always a possibility and for this reason both parties are feeling vulnerable.  This is especially true of the hero who usually initiates the kiss.  The most important thing of all is this: how does a kiss change their relationship?  Ah, the heart flutters in anticipation—because we know that it will . . .

Now that you know a little about the fictional part of a kiss, here’s some facts about real kisses:

  • Did you know that kissing prevents wrinkles.? It’s true. Kissing uses twenty-nine face muscles and all that exercise helps keep your skin firm and smooth.
  • Kissing for a single minute burns 26 calories. Hitting the lips for an hour sounds like a whole lot more fun than hitting the gym.
  • The average woman kisses eighty men before she marries (Harrumph. Now they tell me).
  • On average, a person spends two weeks of their lives kissing. (I know I’ve spent at least the amount time writing about kissing.  Hey, it’s harder than you’d think.)
  • Men who kiss their wives before going to work live on the average five years longer than men who leave slamming doors.
  • Is kissing learned or instinctual? No one really knows for sure.
  • The film with the most kisses was Don Juan (1926). John Barrymore and Mary Astor share 127 kisses. Don’t believe me? Count them.
  • Kissing is good for the teeth. All that extra saliva. . . So if you want to save on dental bills, you now know what to do.
  • Kissing releases the same neurotransmitters in the brain as bungee jumping and parachuting. I’ll have to take their word for this because I’m great believer in keeping my feet grounded.